*warning* quite possibly contains 'too much' informaiton
ok we're all adults here (if you are not, don't read this post!).
we all know that occasionally adults (some more than others and others not at all!) enjoy a bit of casual sex at times. thats fine! i respect that! hell i'm guilty of that! however, when did casual sex/no strings attached become the assumed arrangement??? it used to be civilised. you meet someone, you flirt and straight out they say 'listen i'm not looking for anything serious right now, i just want to have some fun' and you are left with the option to proceed or back out BEFORE you've pictured what you'll wear on your first date.
these days i'm finding that you should consider yourself lucky if they assume there is a date on the agenda. is it just that australian men are too cheap to buy a girl a drink? or is it just me and i have a sign on my head saying "booty call", and i wasn't aware of it. perhaps i just never noticed it before because i wasn't interested in a relationship (the few that have managed to call me a girlfriend have had to work for it). maybe i've had a casual overload in the last 5 months whilst traveling (i don't mean there were a lot of them, i just mean they were ALL casual - except if you count nearly falling in love with a french guy and a colin farrell look a like as 'meaningful'). or maybe i've just grown up a little and realised i want a side of intimacy with my booty! the least we could do as civilised adults is let someone know when intimacy is not on the menu, that way you don't waste time considering how it would taste.
don't get me wrong i'm still not interested in a serious relationship. however, talking to someone for HOURS on end for the past week, to find out that since the beginning his intentions were always 'to can call each other when either of us wants sex' makes me wonder why the hell would i care what your favorite colour is then?!?! was it always that cold and calculated? i want a person who cares about me as a friend, can hang out just to hang out, will give me a hug. if we happen to fall into bed every now and then so be it. and if you meet someone else that you want to have a serious relationship with, you could still consider each other 'friends'. does that exist anymore??? did it ever? or did i just unknowingly play some poor bastard who thought i was his girlfriend. eek!
NB. the slight bitter overtone to this post has been noted, was unable to be removed successfully, and exists only because i'm losing faith in mankind (extreme i know)... not because i got taken for a ride. there has been no ride, i was clued in before i booked a seat on the ride.
we all know that occasionally adults (some more than others and others not at all!) enjoy a bit of casual sex at times. thats fine! i respect that! hell i'm guilty of that! however, when did casual sex/no strings attached become the assumed arrangement??? it used to be civilised. you meet someone, you flirt and straight out they say 'listen i'm not looking for anything serious right now, i just want to have some fun' and you are left with the option to proceed or back out BEFORE you've pictured what you'll wear on your first date.
these days i'm finding that you should consider yourself lucky if they assume there is a date on the agenda. is it just that australian men are too cheap to buy a girl a drink? or is it just me and i have a sign on my head saying "booty call", and i wasn't aware of it. perhaps i just never noticed it before because i wasn't interested in a relationship (the few that have managed to call me a girlfriend have had to work for it). maybe i've had a casual overload in the last 5 months whilst traveling (i don't mean there were a lot of them, i just mean they were ALL casual - except if you count nearly falling in love with a french guy and a colin farrell look a like as 'meaningful'). or maybe i've just grown up a little and realised i want a side of intimacy with my booty! the least we could do as civilised adults is let someone know when intimacy is not on the menu, that way you don't waste time considering how it would taste.
don't get me wrong i'm still not interested in a serious relationship. however, talking to someone for HOURS on end for the past week, to find out that since the beginning his intentions were always 'to can call each other when either of us wants sex' makes me wonder why the hell would i care what your favorite colour is then?!?! was it always that cold and calculated? i want a person who cares about me as a friend, can hang out just to hang out, will give me a hug. if we happen to fall into bed every now and then so be it. and if you meet someone else that you want to have a serious relationship with, you could still consider each other 'friends'. does that exist anymore??? did it ever? or did i just unknowingly play some poor bastard who thought i was his girlfriend. eek!
NB. the slight bitter overtone to this post has been noted, was unable to be removed successfully, and exists only because i'm losing faith in mankind (extreme i know)... not because i got taken for a ride. there has been no ride, i was clued in before i booked a seat on the ride.
posted by nat at 11:48 pm
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